What is Bullying?


Bullying is a special form of aggressive behavior. The world's leading authority on bullying, Dan Olweus, who designed the Norwegian intervention program, defines it this way: "A person is being bullied when he or she is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons" (Olweus, 1991, 1993). What differentiates bullying from other aggressive acts is that the student who bullies intends to harm, there is more than one incident, and an imbalance of power makes it hard for the child who's being bullied to defend herself. [1]

What are the different types of bullying?

  • Physical
  • Emotional or psychological
  • Cyber


Some Important facts about bullying:

  • 160,000 children in the US miss school every day due to bullying related incidences
  • 47% of Canadian Parents felt their children have been bullied
  • Bullying starts from a very young age. It can be apparent at the playground. Children in kindergarten may face bullying too, though at that age it may be labelled as “unkind behavior”
  • Girls can be bullies too
  • A child who has been bullied may bully children younger than him or her


How do I know if my child is being bullied?

Some signs that may point to a bullying problem are[2]: 

  • Unexplained injuries
  • Lost or destroyed clothing, books, electronics, or jewelry
  • Frequent headaches or stomach aches, feeling sick or faking illness
  • Changes in eating habits, like suddenly skipping meals or binge eating. Kids may come home from school hungry because they did not eat lunch.
  • Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares
  • Declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork, or not wanting to go to school
  • Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations
  • Feelings of helplessness or decreased self esteem

It is important to note that not all children exhibit signs of bullying. It may also take some time, sometimes hours or days before children open up about a problem in school.

Signs of a child bullying others[2]:

Kids may be bullying others if they:

  • Get into physical or verbal fights
  • Have friends who bully others
  • Are increasingly aggressive
  • Get sent to the principal’s office or to detention frequently
  • Have unexplained extra money or new belongings
  • Blame others for their problems
  • Don’t accept responsibility for their actions
  • Are competitive and worry about their reputation or popularity


How can I help my child?

  • Listen to your child
  • Be supportive and understanding
  • Teach the child the importance of a bystander. The importance of  standing up for someone being bullied
  • Ask your child to speak to his or her class teacher
  • Speak to your child’s teacher to bring repeated incidences to his or her attention.
  • Teach the difference between reporting on a child participating in “unkind behavior” and being a tattle tale
  • Teaching the child to be assertive
  • Teaching the child morality and ethics through stories
  • Teaching your child to be kind even if someone else is mean
  • Role playing with your child to help him in handling uncomfortable situations such as saying stop to an aggressive child


Notes:


[1] http://www.education.com/reference/article/what-bullying-teasing-school/
[2] http://www.stopbullying.gov/at-risk/warning-signs/index.html


 


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Two children a 3 year old and a 5 year old are playing in a room, one of them receives a new toy from his aunt. The other gets nothing.


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Will they fight? 


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